Comments on Single Mama NYC - Single Mom in The Big Apple: Pushing Your Past Out Into Your Future

I love this post. Thank you so much for sharing. I...

2012-01-30T10:34:59.828-05:00

I love this post. Thank you so much for sharing. It is all too true that I've let past pain affect my present as well as my future. It is unhealthy, and it's important to work on letting those things go so that I can move forward.

Take the parts you need from the old car, and leav...

2012-01-30T03:47:47.242-05:00

Take the parts you need from the old car, and leave the rest you know? That's how I feel I've learned to forgive/accept my own losses better. Because in all the loss are such deep learnings about our needs, our story,our wounds, our generational wounds (what we inherited from our parents, their parents etc). And in the last 6 months I have allowed myself to surrender to love as a single Mama--and have brought into our collective lives a remarkable being who shows up it soooo many new ways for me. It was super hard at first to allow in so much move. But it is getting easier--as this NEW story is writing itself. The car is an older model--but it's built for a family of four, and has some serious pick up when it needs to :)

Thanks for the thoughtful post--and congrats for clearing all this possible and loving space around you!

Great post Issa and I would expect a lot of follow...

2012-01-28T22:27:08.004-05:00

Great post Issa and I would expect a lot of followers to be able to fully empathise with what you wrote. Very, very thought provoking.
And thank you so much for your lovely words when you visited me.

Great thoughts! I really like your decision to me...

2012-01-26T21:43:00.554-05:00

Great thoughts! I really like your decision to mentally rewrite the story in the past....changing the way we look at something is huge, and I think I need to do some of that myself. Thanks for the inspiration!

Love this. Saw the post, the pic, and thought, tha...

2012-01-26T21:34:53.552-05:00

Love this. Saw the post, the pic, and thought, that's how I feel every day. But you're right it doesn't have to be like that, and for me, my new goal is just that, for now, most of the time it isn't. Finding the co-parent consistently challenges that. Thanks for a great post.

Wow. You're so right. I can see it clearly - I...

2012-01-26T20:30:07.071-05:00

Wow. You're so right. I can see it clearly - I'm wound up so tight by why my "marriage" (for want of a better word; 14-years-and-2-kids-ship more like) fell apart and my ex lost his damn mind that I can't get past it. I KNOW it's unhealthy to stay so mad (we talked about this on Twitter the other day) but boy, is it difficult to let go... I wish I could find the strength you seem to have found...
I don't have it yet, but I'm going to try. Try and let go of the anger, the woe-is-me, life-is-unfair stuff I've been working for the last 2 years...
You inspire me!

Issa, I do this all the time without realizing it ...

2012-01-26T20:23:12.022-05:00

Issa,
I do this all the time without realizing it until it's too late. It's almost like what I do to not do it is actually me doing it in disguise. ??? I guess the secret is to realize that trusting people isn't dangerous, that they can't hurt me, not really. Having confidence in myself will open the doors for others. Someone who doesn't live in a constant state of defense is going to let a lot more life in, whether it's hurtful or not, it's worth the risk. And I'm strong enough to weather that risk. 'Bout time I realized it. :)