Comments on Single Mama NYC - Single Mom in The Big Apple: The Mommy Paradox

Hello! Stopping over from SITS - a few days after ...

2009-10-29T10:18:59.268-04:00

Hello! Stopping over from SITS - a few days after your spotlight extravaganza. BUT, I had to come. It's been hectic in my neck of the woods, but there was no way I was not going to comment on a fellow NYC mom! I loved your post - while I am no longer a single mom, there are trials and tribulations of having a blended family. The one common thread is the unparalelled love for our children. This was a beautiful post. Thank you for showing me that I am not alone in striving for more, for me and for them.

Best,

Cristina

I have taken a few mommy getaways and struggle wit...

2009-10-28T17:14:49.670-04:00

I have taken a few mommy getaways and struggle with feeling relief to get away for a few days and missing him so much I can barely stand it!

Dear Single Mama--you are wise beyond your years. ...

2009-10-27T21:30:43.731-04:00

Dear Single Mama--you are wise beyond your years. I am a brand spanking new blogger (my blog is 6 days old!) and I am 48, with two teenagers (one is off to college!).

I mention I'm new to blogging because I just found "The Secret's in the Sauce" today and of course they fortunately led me to you. I spent all day today reading other blogs and with each Mommy Blog I came across, I felt a little pang of .......let's see ...what was it? Loss maybe?? Having a 24/7 purpose that I must attend to whether I wanted to or not.....?

So now here I am, at a time in my life where there's time for my own "purposes" now and I am at a bit of a loss. It's a new transition time for me.

I'm hoping my blog will help me work it out! In any case, I'm proud of you for being so carefully circumspect. You will be well prepared when you get to this new & exciting phase of life!

I looking forward to being a regular follower of Single Mama NYC....

PS--LOVE your music!

You are very smart to keep your friends and enjoy ...

2009-10-27T11:54:50.284-04:00

You are very smart to keep your friends and enjoy your life away from your son when you have the opportunity to do so. It's good to have a break every once in a while! Enjoy yourself... because you should always remember that you're special and you're a unique individual, whether you have your son around or not. :)

So true! Reminds me of the addage "no one is ...

2009-10-27T11:29:55.061-04:00

So true! Reminds me of the addage "no one is happy if momma ain't happy" I think so many moms get caught up in the kids they forget about themselves and their other relationships in the their lives. thanks for reminding us!

Great post, very wise, enjoy your ME time. :)

2009-10-27T11:14:40.633-04:00

Great post, very wise, enjoy your ME time. :)

Terrific post. You sound like a wise woman and a g...

2009-10-27T11:05:23.504-04:00

Terrific post. You sound like a wise woman and a great mom.

What great insight to what my mom must have felt l...

2009-10-27T10:41:38.551-04:00

What great insight to what my mom must have felt like when we left on Fridays for our weekends with my dad - thanks for sharing this!

Truer words have never been spoken. What will make...

2009-10-27T10:05:02.249-04:00

Truer words have never been spoken. What will make him happy when you are both A LOT OLDER, is to know that his mother is happy and looking forward to HER future...then he is free to have his! Enjoy your SITS day. Come visit when ya can.

ah, you are soooo right! Parenting is a complete p...

2009-10-27T08:05:36.202-04:00

ah, you are soooo right! Parenting is a complete paradox in so many ways :) Bless you for doing what you think is right, even when it hurts! I count you among the "good" mommies :)

Good job Mom and happy SITS day!

2009-10-27T02:05:16.680-04:00

Good job Mom and happy SITS day!

You write beautiful words. No better way to descri...

2009-10-26T22:49:18.473-04:00

You write beautiful words. No better way to describe it. Listening to Duke is just icing on the cake :)

A beautiful reminder to stay true to ourselves! T...

2009-10-26T22:22:13.141-04:00

A beautiful reminder to stay true to ourselves! Thanks for sharing and happy SITS!

Happy SITS Day! I loved reading this! We all nee...

2009-10-26T22:09:32.669-04:00

Happy SITS Day! I loved reading this! We all need some Mommy-time and you articulated it so well. Thanks for sharing and I'll be sure to visit again :)

We all need some respite. That is amazing that you...

2009-10-26T21:04:46.399-04:00

We all need some respite. That is amazing that your Mom takes him for a weekend a month!

Happy SITS Day! I completely understand. I am the...

2009-10-26T20:25:20.828-04:00

Happy SITS Day! I completely understand. I am the same way, even if I am only leaving my son for an hour. It always feels like something is missing when he is gone.

You hit the nail right on the head. I'm glad ...

2009-10-26T20:19:41.851-04:00

You hit the nail right on the head. I'm glad you're able to get a bit of "you" time. That is sooo important. If you give give give and never take the time to recharge yourself, eventually you will have nothing to give. So all you said is very true. Hope you're enjoying your day in the the SITS spotlight.

Love this post because it's SO true. It's...

2009-10-26T20:15:11.487-04:00

Love this post because it's SO true. It's really hard for me to turn off Mommy-Mode. If I make it to the grocery alone, I find myself talking to myself because I'm so accustomed to having someone in the cart!
Good for you for getting some well-deserved Mama Time!
Happy SITS Day!!!

Happy SITS day! Yes, like you I was "me"...

2009-10-26T19:23:23.799-04:00

Happy SITS day!

Yes, like you I was "me" for 30 years before my kids came along. It's very easy to lose focus of that. As a grandmom now, I try to give my daughter and son-in-law some "them" time.

I understand how you feel. We take our son to my m...

2009-10-26T18:57:26.019-04:00

I understand how you feel. We take our son to my mom's every SAturday night. We are thankful for that break. But then, we realize how quiet our house is and we can't think of anything to do.

Isn't it amazing how torn we can feel...needin...

2009-10-26T17:57:05.613-04:00

Isn't it amazing how torn we can feel...needing "me" time and yet at the same time feeling a "hole" when we aren't with our little ones!! But like you said...we need time to re-engergize and focus on some of our passions! Happy SITS day!

This is sooooo true. I've seen some of my fri...

2009-10-26T17:54:52.138-04:00

This is sooooo true. I've seen some of my friends drive themselves nuts living just for their family without giving themselves a thought. I have a tendency to not spend money on myself even though I could use some new clothes and shoes, but I do make sure I have "me only" activities. Connecting with my friends does make me a better mommy and teaches an invaluable life lesson to my girls.

Tearing up here. I fight this same battle of emoti...

2009-10-26T17:51:06.176-04:00

Tearing up here. I fight this same battle of emotions EVERYTIME my son goes with his dad (which is rarely the once a month we have scheduled). It is true, we need our "me time" but when you are so in love with that little person it's hard to remember what me time is like. In the end, you are welcome him back with open arms.

I can't possibly add anything meaningful to th...

2009-10-26T17:34:41.372-04:00

I can't possibly add anything meaningful to that-- you expressed the whole mom-conflict so perfectly. I loved reading this.

Happy SITS Day!

Beautifully written.

2009-10-26T17:33:32.529-04:00

Beautifully written.