Thursday, April 29, 2010
Tuesday, April 27, 2010
This Mother's Day, even if maybe you haven't had the best relationship with your mom for whatever reasons, make sure to connect with her and thank her for giving you life, and for doing the best she could while raising you. If you are one of the people who have unfortunately lost their mothers, please spend Mother's Day feeling fortunate in knowing that you were loved, so very loved - and blessed to have personally known the special love that can only come from a Mother.
Monday, April 26, 2010
I'm really, really exhausted. On so many levels.
Thursday, April 22, 2010
For her tips on what you can do in just FOUR minutes to make yourself look NYC fabulous, check out her latest post: http://glitterglamnyc.blogspot.com/2010/04/ready-set-get-gorgeous-in-4-minutes-or.html. If you try out her tips and you love them (which I'm sure you will), be sure to leave her a comment - and tell her that her BFF Issa sent you. Xoxo!
Wednesday, April 21, 2010
Monday, April 19, 2010
Crappy news? There isn't anything I can do about the pain, it will probably last for the rest of my life, and I should probably steer clear of strong pain killers - so Motrin is all I can take, which won't always take away all of the pain. Boooo!!!
Crappier news? My back went out again. I am going to the doctor's again in the next few days but they are saying that it "sounds like" a pinched sciatic nerve. The pain is almost more than I can bear. BOOOOOO!!!
Good thing I'm a tough ol' broad.
Thursday, April 15, 2010
Monday, April 12, 2010
I'm done, Universe. Thanks for helping me to remember how resilient I am. I GET IT. Enough. I'm ready for some good times, good luck, and good energy to come my way in abundance, so thank you, very, very much for delivering.
Saturday, April 3, 2010
"After a bitter quarrel, some resentment remains.
What can one do about it?
Being content with what you have is always best in the end.
Someone must risk returning injury with kindness,
or hostility will never turn to goodwill.
So the wise always give without expecting gratitude.
One with true virtue
always seeks a way to give.
One who lacks true virtue
always seeks a way to get.
To the giver comes the fullness of life;
to the taker, just an empty hand."
Dr. Dyer goes on to fully analyze and explain these 2,500 year old words so that they are easier to apply to our daily lives, but here's a snippet of it that may help: Silently reciting, "Where there is injury, let me bring pardon", will help you become a giver of forgiveness (to them and to you as well). Bring love to hate, light to darkness, and pardon to injury. Doing this daily will help overcome one's ego and its demands, and help us to know "the fullness of life"!
Thursday, April 1, 2010
So, as a Buddhist, you'd think I'd be able to keep it together when Theo's father is being difficult and employ detachment. Unfortunately, I'm a Taurus and a Mother, so I get pretty ferocious when he messes with what I think is best for my kid. Here are things that I already knew, but needed reminding of yesterday (and may need repeated reminding of over the next 19 yrs):
- When he's being difficult, it's usually all a show of male pride and flexing in that he's a "parent" too. Removing yourself from anger allows you to see how under-developed his ability to be fully conscious is and to try (hard part coming up...) to have compassion for where he's at in his psychological and spiritual development.
-State your piece with no emotion, then document any transgressions and keep records in case necessary for future (court, etc.).
-Be as fully detached from outcomes as possible and trust that even pain and adversity will make your child a more enlightened person.
-If your child is present, always choose the "high road", even if it means going against what you believe (so damn hard for me. Was always taught to fight for what I believe in). Your ability to retain self-respect by employing grace instead of force will ensure your child's sense of security and lessen your own need for anger and/or retribution. If the issue needs to be further handled, do so at a later time when your child is not present.
- Loss of control is scary, but you cannot control the actions of others, ever. Surrendering the need to control the situation (any situation), will go a long way to giving you peace of mind and removing his ability to rattle you.
Sometimes you will fail, as I did yesterday. But in failure there are these great seeds of insight. I know that I will never, EVER, allow myself to resort to force over grace in front of my child again. Painful lesson, but a lesson well-learned.