For the most part - and I mean like 99% of the time - I absolutely LOVE being a mom. Everything about it, even the stuff that wears me out, drives me crazy, and taxes my patience. I'm grateful for every last bit of it, and I am SO very grateful for my Theo.
But . . . every now and then I miss who I used to be. Once in a blue, orange, green and purple moon. Very, very rarely. But I do. I miss being able to grab my passport and fly off to wherever the heck I want to go, with little more than my passport, tickets, a bathing suit and an outfit or two. Just going to the park entails packing more than that these days!
Sometimes, just sometimes, I miss being able to go out with the girls for cocktails at a swanky new spot, or our favorite swanky old spot, at a moment's notice. I miss being able to go to grown-up house parties. I miss being able to sleep in as late as I wanted to. I miss being able to have my friends over at any time of the night for a rowdy gab session. I just, well, I just miss some of the ME I used to be. But only sometimes.
Do you ever miss who you used to be?
Tuesday, September 1, 2009
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Yes. :) And that's why I have been told to start taking advantage of anyone around who's there to help. Utilize the family, the baby-sitters you trust, etc. And DO ME time. Go out like you did last week. Let Theo have a sleepover somewhere and you have one of your own with a girlfriend. Sometime....just pack on overnighter for him AND you and jet away somewhere for a long weekend. I dare you! :) I packed up my two boys and headed out on a 4 hour drive one weekend this summer. Loved it. :) Just fit YOU into Mama world. It CAN happen...
...but of course, when you figure out how, let me know. ;)
I agree with Tooj. Single parents often put more weight on themselves than necessary in doing it alone. Every so often, people offer to babysit the girls, and beyond my parents, I don't normally accept it, but I should. The way I see it, our kids deserve to be loved by as many people as possible, and we deserve to have a little "me" time.
First of all, I LOVE that song. I walked out to it at my wedding. And yes I do miss being able to go as I please, but its worth it. I really hope you try to green smoothies. Do it for a week and let me know your results.
Nadirah
I miss sleeping in. I don't think I will ever stop missing sleeping in.
Well, since I've been a mom since the age of 21 I can't say that "I miss who I used to be". In fact, I like who I am now much better than that naiive girl.
I miss my skinny thighs. And miss that I can't up and move to another state if I want to, because I have to stay in the vicinity of the exhusband for my girls' sake. Other than that, pretty happy with things.
definitrly miss who i used to be :(
BEfore my son I was more free, I wasn't scorned by men, I slept in late, I went out to party, smoke weed and drink occasionally, but overall my life was so boring. I pretty much knew what my day to day would consist of before it even began.
I feel like things are more exciting now, that I have a purpose in life now that I have my son. If I had a choice to stay here or go back I would definitely stay here!
Yup. I do. But you know what, eventually...I won't kid you it's soon...but eventually you become this different woman, this strong woman with different things on your mind AND when the mood takes you, you get to do the cocktails, go to dinners and fly off, even if just for a day or two.
The secret is time and other mums; they will sit as you will for them. You'll take turns taking them to school so you can have an afternoon shopping and drinking coffee. They'll sip cocktails, secure in the knowledge that you're feeding them and looking after them well.
Spontaniety has gone but in it's place is other things. I do miss it though, very much at times. But I also know that it'll never be the same, even if it were to come back...I pined in Canada after a few days and, although I had a great time, they were they, in the back of my mind every hour.
I miss having an identity that is just me. I feel like I have only 1% of it left and the rest is all mommy. I love being a mom, but I miss having time to express who I am inside.
Tell me it! I miss being to getting ready and walking out door. But the reality is there is much more planning to do now. It so hard at times .
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