I've begun to realize that there is a distinct difference between coasting through life (what some poeple call living but what I will refer to forevermore as merely 'surviving'), and creating your life (which I now consider truly living).
I'd been coasting for the last 36 years.
Starting as of very recently (only the last few days since my 36th birthday, to be exact), I am in creation mode. I don't mean just as a writer, or a mother, but as a person, as ME. I get to have a say in what my life looks like, and most especially, what my life feels like, and I will try my hardest to stay away from merely being reactionary. You know what I mean: your toddler refuses to do what you want him/her to do. "Ugh, this sucks. My kid is a pain and I'm a terrible mother." Your finances are nothing near what you'd like for them to be. "Ugh, this sucks. I hate not having enough money to buy what I want." Your significant other ticks you off, or the lack of a significant other ticks you off. "Ugh, this sucks. My life is nothing like what I'd thought it would be and I hate it." And on and on and on. I refuse to be in a reactionary place anymore -- I choose to create. Nothing sucks unless I say it does. Each and every one of those (and any other) circumstance can be changed by a mere shift in thought. Your toddler refuses to do what you want him/her to do. "My baby is so authentic. I'm so grateful he is able to be himself and does not hide his needs or desires from me." Your finances are nothing near what you'd like for them to be. "I'm connected to Infinite Abundance through my Source. All that I need is on its way." Your significant other ticks you off, or the lack of a significant other ticks you off. "I am so grateful to have someone in my life that I care about that much. (or) I am so grateful to have the time and space to get my life in order to make room for a significant other to enter it."
Those thoughts just feel so different, don't they? The first set are so heavy and confining. The second set, so light and expansive. I know which thoughts I'd rather have rattling around in my head. And if thoughts are the seedlings of your life, then I am already on the path to a lighter, more expansive and creative life.
Because I said so.